Magnolia family’s exchange student relationship spans more than 30 years

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Karen Williams and Sophie LeClerc share another moment in their 31-year friendship.

  

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By Jeff Brown, News Editor
Posted Aug 17, 2010 @ 03:00 PM
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Little did Bill and Jean Wothers know when they invited 16-year-old French high school student Sophie Sicot into their home back in August 1979, they were beginning a friendship that eventually would enter its third generation.

Thirty-one years later, Sophie, now Sophie LeClerc, her husband Christophe, 21-year-old son Thibault, and daughters Cassandre, 15 and Morgane, 11, are on their 10th visit to the Wothers home. The family, except daughter Marion, 18, who didn’t make the trip this year, are spending three weeks in Delaware and taking in nearby sights such as New York City and Hershey Park, Pa.

They’re also spending time with the Wothers’ daughter, Lake Forest High School teacher Karen Williams and her family, including 5-year-old son Weston.

The idea of hosting a foreign student for a month all those years ago was an easy one for the family to make, Jean Wothers said.

“Karen was taking French back then and brought home an application to have a student stay the summer,” she recalled. “I’d never been to France before and Karen was so enthusiastic about it we thought it would be a neat experience for our whole family.”

Sophie arrived for a one-month stay later that summer.

“I wanted to learn to speak English more fluently,” Sophie said. “I had studied in England before I came to the U.S., but wanted to discover what it was like in the states.”

“I didn’t really have any idea what it would be like,” she added. “But it was love at first sight.”

It was a bit of a whirlwind summer, with trips to the beach and other attractions plus Sophie’s introduction to roller coasters and some usually unappreciated examples of American cuisine, including sweet corn and peanut butter.

The end of her sojourn almost ended with a stay in the hospital however, when Sophie, in a rush to get outside, ran into and shattered a sliding glass door she thought had been left open. A photo with Karen shows Sophie’s legs covered in bandages, and she still carries the scars today.

After that, “I thought her mother would never let her come back,” Wothers said.

But the bond between the families was strong. In 1980, Sophie, her parents and members of her extended family visited Washington, D.C., meeting the Wothers family in the nation’s capital. Karen later traveled to France, and she and Sophie studied together in London, beginning a series of round trips across the Atlantic they hope will continue far into the future.
Christophe, an insurance executive in France, said he had no concerns about being inducted into this international family following his marriage to Sophie in 1987.

Little did Bill and Jean Wothers know when they invited 16-year-old French high school student Sophie Sicot into their home back in August 1979, they were beginning a friendship that eventually would enter its third generation.

Thirty-one years later, Sophie, now Sophie LeClerc, her husband Christophe, 21-year-old son Thibault, and daughters Cassandre, 15 and Morgane, 11, are on their 10th visit to the Wothers home. The family, except daughter Marion, 18, who didn’t make the trip this year, are spending three weeks in Delaware and taking in nearby sights such as New York City and Hershey Park, Pa.

They’re also spending time with the Wothers’ daughter, Lake Forest High School teacher Karen Williams and her family, including 5-year-old son Weston.

The idea of hosting a foreign student for a month all those years ago was an easy one for the family to make, Jean Wothers said.

“Karen was taking French back then and brought home an application to have a student stay the summer,” she recalled. “I’d never been to France before and Karen was so enthusiastic about it we thought it would be a neat experience for our whole family.”

Sophie arrived for a one-month stay later that summer.

“I wanted to learn to speak English more fluently,” Sophie said. “I had studied in England before I came to the U.S., but wanted to discover what it was like in the states.”

“I didn’t really have any idea what it would be like,” she added. “But it was love at first sight.”

It was a bit of a whirlwind summer, with trips to the beach and other attractions plus Sophie’s introduction to roller coasters and some usually unappreciated examples of American cuisine, including sweet corn and peanut butter.

The end of her sojourn almost ended with a stay in the hospital however, when Sophie, in a rush to get outside, ran into and shattered a sliding glass door she thought had been left open. A photo with Karen shows Sophie’s legs covered in bandages, and she still carries the scars today.

After that, “I thought her mother would never let her come back,” Wothers said.

But the bond between the families was strong. In 1980, Sophie, her parents and members of her extended family visited Washington, D.C., meeting the Wothers family in the nation’s capital. Karen later traveled to France, and she and Sophie studied together in London, beginning a series of round trips across the Atlantic they hope will continue far into the future.
Christophe, an insurance executive in France, said he had no concerns about being inducted into this international family following his marriage to Sophie in 1987.

“I like people,” he said. “I like to discover and meet new people and discover a different way of living.”

As much as they’ve found people on both sides of the Atlantic can be alike, there still are many differences, at least in society. In France, high school students must pay for their books, but conversely they may attend college or university at very little cost. Gasoline is much more expensive, but cigarettes are cheaper.

And food? Let’s just say you have to buy two burgers at a French McDonald’s to equal one in the U.S.

People often find friendships, and the reasons for them, can be difficult things to define.

These families find nothing unusual in having kept up the relationship for so long when, as far as they know, the other exchange students from 1979 and their American hosts have drifted apart.

“It’s just the easiness of our friendship,” Karen said. “We’ve made the effort.”

“Same answer,” Sophie echoed. “I always thought we’d keep in touch with them, so I made the effort to send letters and packages and give news about family and friends.”

And with the advent of digital communications, staying in touch is almost instantaneous.

“It’s a lot easier now than it was 30 years ago,” Karen said.

And the traditions continue as this trip starts to wind down. The LeClerc family will head home Friday, Aug. 20, and Sophie already is planning their farewell French meal. She hasn’t made up her mind just yet what will be on the menu, thinking it may depend on whether she can find the right ingredients.

And, of course, there will be more letters, packages, emails and visits in the future. Thibault is looking to improve his already impressive command of English with an eye toward working for an American company some day. Even Weston, at the age of 5, has learned some French words in case he becomes a police officer in Paris when he’s older.

And, as for Jean Wothers, would she and Bill recommend American families host foreign students as they themselves did?

“Definitely,” she said. “It’s been a wonderful experience.

“But, of course, I’d want them all to be like Sophie.”

Email Jeff Brown at jeff.brown@doverpost.com.

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